The Power Of Fellowship For Recovery

Let’s face it: as addicts, we might have been the social butterflies and life of the party for a time, but as the addiction escalated, we often found ourselves becoming increasingly isolated. We didn’t like ourselves and couldn’t understand why anyone else would either. We felt safe in the arms of our addiction, and after a while didn’t see the point in trying to engage others. It often felt like too much work.

The “Fellowship” Part Of Recovery May Feel Like An Overload, But It’s Needed And Worth It

Thus, for many of us, getting into recovery can be a fellowship overload. There are these lively recovering people all around us wanting to help us, hug us, call us on the phone and send encouraging texts. They want to meet for coffee, they are inviting us to help set up chairs before the meeting and they are delving into the most private details of our lives. For the newcomer—the one who has been isolating in the dark corners of addiction—the program’s focus on fellowship can feel like a hurdle.

Power Of Fellowship For Recovery - ChristianDrugRehab.comCan’t we just work the steps on our own? Can’t we just come to the meeting a few minutes late and slip out a few minutes early to avoid the chit-chat? Why do we have to call our sponsors every day? Why do we have to pick up the phone when others call us? We barely know these people.

If you’re a newcomer, you may not yet see the vital importance of fellowship. That’s OK. You will. We are accustomed to thinking we can do everything on our own. But isn’t that what we were trying to do before we got into recovery? And how was it working for us? We were full-blown addicts. Although all this fellowship feels foreign and uncomfortable, it’s time to give this new way of living a chance.

While all the people around you hugging you and calling you may feel overwhelming, the truth is, you need these people and they need you. They are welcoming you into the fold with a level of open acceptance unlike anything you are likely to receive anywhere else. The rest of the world is evaluating and assessing us, loving us conditionally.

In the 12-step rooms, the performance and the distinctions and the conditions go out the window. We are nothing more than a humble group of addicts desperately trying to get well and leaning on each other to do it.

You may feel guilty at first that so many people are going out of their way to help you. That’s because most of us don’t know how to let others serve us. We believe we are unworthy or that something will be asked of us in return. But as we stick around the 12-step rooms, we see that service to others strengthens sobriety. And then it is easy to see why everyone is so happy to give and serve and sacrifice.

Power Of Letting Others Help You

If you are a newcomer, this is your chance to open yourself up and receive. It is not the time to ask how you can pay everyone back for all they have done for you. That day will come. As you begin working through the first steps, you are letting others help you. You are getting your head cleared out and you are reconnecting with God. These are rocky days and you have all you can handle to simply not take a drink or get high.

The most important service you do for your fellowship right now is to stay sober and to keep showing up at your meeting. You may not see how important this is now, but later you will understand.

As you continue working through the steps, the program will start to feel more natural. You will be getting your bearings and enjoying some solid sobriety. And soon you will feel yourself reaching out. Instead of letting others call you, you will pick up the phone. After some months you may be asked to sponsor. You may take on a simple service position.

Soon you find that these people are becoming your greatest friends and confidants. You look forward to going to your meeting and even welcome the phone calls. You have finally found a group of people who understand you, want to know you and like you. You like them, too.

And as you give back to this fellowship through service, through your continued sobriety and through simply sharing your own story of addiction and recovery, you are strengthening the group as a whole and you are practicing the 12th step. Newcomers walking through the doors hear your story of hope and dare to believe this program could work for them. This is the service we do for our fellowship and for the community. And as recovering addicts, it is our highest calling and our greatest joy.

Serve God & Serve Others & You Will Be Blessed!