Do You Want To Change? Tips To Help You

If you’re still battling your addiction (or maybe you’re not even calling it an addiction, maybe it’s just a “problem”), then perhaps you’re thinking about what it would be like if life were different, if your very existence were not dictated by a substance or behavior you couldn’t ignore, control or let go of. Maybe you’re thinking about change.

You believe that God has the best for you and you know it’s something that doesn’t include this craziness. You’ve prayed, read the Bible endlessly, and joined Christian groups, but the problem persists.

You’re Doing Everything You Can, But Do You Want To Change?

You feel like you’re doing all the right things, but you’re still struggling. You wonder why God doesn’t seem to hear you, why he doesn’t change you or why he doesn’t just take away the addiction. But the question is this: Do you want to change?

Do You Want To Change - Tips To Help You - ChristianDrugRehabIn seems obvious that we should change; our lives are a mess. But we have to actually want to change, and not all addicts do. Sure, we’d like to be free of the addiction and the endless cycle of temptation, indulgence and shame. Many of us are experiencing pain or other negative consequences of our disease and we’d like to be free of all that, too. We’ve lost jobs, houses, cars and maybe even our families. Others are high-functioning and it seems the backlash has been minimal, yet they’re plagued by the shame and self-hatred of living in daily bondage to the addiction.

“Do I want to change?” is a very different question from, “Do I think I should change?” How can we know the difference?

Addiction Taking Over

Brian was a Christian and an addict. He’d been addicted to pornography since his young teenage years when his older brother had exposed him to his first adult video. Over the next 15 years, the world of online porn exploded and with it Brian’s tastes had become increasingly hardcore. He was plagued by the memory of the images he had viewed in secret, yet powerless to stop clicking through increasingly graphic and hardcore porn.

He’d tried prayer, accountability with other men and Internet filters. But the craving for porn and masturbation was still overwhelming. As destroyed as he felt every time he engaged in the activity, he still desired more.

The persistent porn addiction was taking a toll on Brian’s life—emotionally and spiritually. He knew he should change. He knew the way he was living had to stop. He’d even sought insight from a Christian mentor within his church. But when asked, point blank, if he wanted to change, he couldn’t say “yes” with real conviction or honesty. He hated the way he was living, but he wasn’t yet desperate enough to do whatever it took to change. He hadn’t hit bottom.

“What If I Don’t Want To Change?” Tips To Help You

The difficulty comes when we know we should change, but we simply don’t want to. We’re just not desperate enough. We don’t think we can do the work of recovery and we’re afraid to try. Is it a hopeless situation? Are we bound to continue in this hell? How do we become more desperate?

The good news is, there is hope. If you think you should want to change, but you’re not sure you’re ready to take the plunge, there are a few things you can do.

Begin With Prayer

But how you pray is essential. You can stop praying that God would just take it away. It has probably happened at some point in history, but rarely does God miraculously lift addictions. God will indeed help you recover, but there is usually some work involved, so this kind of prayer isn’t as effective.

Instead, try asking God to show you yourself as you really are. Ask Him to help you to be honest and to see the reality of your life and the sin you are dealing with. Pray that you would understand more deeply how it affects your relationship with Him and with the other people in your life.

Pray that God would help you to want better things for yourself. Ask that He would remove your pride and give you the courage to see and admit your own powerlessness.

Review Your Life And Your Addiction

Next, take stock of your life and the progression of your addiction. With all the attempts to fix yourself, have you seen lasting improvement? For most addicts, the problem is progressive, getting worse instead of better over time. Have you seen these same patterns?

Talk With Someone Who Is In Recovery

You may also try having an honest conversation with someone who has struggled with the same addiction but is now in recovery. Listen to his or her story and see where you identify. Investigate to find out if change and recovery are worth it or if your status quo is a better situation.

Pray that God would help you want to change. Then surrender yourself bravely and boldly to His direction.

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