When You Want to Stop Your Porn Addiction

When-You-Want-to-Stop-Your-Porn-AddictionAs Internet access booms, so does access to online pornography. While many will never choose to look at an adult site, others will be powerfully drawn in. At first it will seem innocuous. The user may feel some guilt or shame, but will attempt to justify the act. However, what may seem like a guilty pleasure or a momentary indulgence has the power to become a life-controlling addiction—destroying marriages, friendships, families and careers in its wake.

Many people living with a porn addiction may not see the addiction for what it is; the denial is too thick and the need too strong. Others may suspect they show signs of addiction, but have no desire to stop.

The hard moment comes when an individual realizes they are addicted to porn and want to stop, but can’t. Pornography addiction is a formidable enemy and it doesn’t give up without a powerful fight. Christians may believe that the desire to stop would be enough. They may work to change their patterns and set up systems of accountability, they may pray and read the Bible. But the obsession and compulsion persist. The addiction has become life controlling and it won’t let go.

While most people wouldn’t expect it, when it comes to pornography addiction, Christians are just as susceptible as the rest of the population. Porn may even be especially attractive to Christians who are single and trying to maintain celibacy before marriage. Porn can seem like the lesser evil and thus not recognized for its highly destructive nature.

If you recognize you have a porn addiction and want to stop, but find that you cannot, be encouraged. You are in a very good place. Recognizing the problem for what it is means there is hope that God can work with you. A heart that is willing is one that God can restore.

While you may have been trying to exert your willpower to control the addiction, now it’s time to stop. This sounds frightening. Perhaps you fear that if you don’t maintain tight vigilance the addiction will take over. Likely you’ve been trying hard to keep the addiction at bay, and maybe you’ve even succeeded for a few weeks or months. But if you’re an addict, it’s only a matter of time before it returns. The answer is not to fight harder, but to let go.

In simple terms, this means admitting powerlessness over the porn addiction in your life. It means affirming that you have tried and you have failed and you cannot save yourself. This is a scary place to be, but it is also the place where God comes to meet you. You can’t do it, but God can; and when you give up the fight, He comes to fight for you. And He’ll fight harder than you ever could.

If you want to recover, you need help. As a Christian, one way to begin walking toward recovery is by talking to your pastor. While you may feel a great deal of shame, you will likely be surprised to learn so many others deal with the same struggle. Your church may even have recommendations for support groups within the church or in your area.

Many will also find recovery within a 12-Step program for pornography addiction or through Christian rehabs. If you want to recover from porn addiction, help is available to you. You aren’t alone.