Working Through God to Move Past Sexual Abuse to Conquer Your Addiction

The reasons for turning to drugs or alcohol as an escape from life vary from one person to the next. If one of your reasons for turning to these substances was sexual abuse, rape or incest, it is very possible to work through your feelings and emotions related to the incidents so that you can conquer your addiction. As part of your Christian rehabilitation program, you will learn how to lean on God’s love and trust in Him to help you move beyond your past to move forward into the future.

Know the Abuse Wasn’t Your Fault

No matter who raped you or why the rape happened, it is important for you to realize that you aren’t the one at fault for the attack. There isn’t anything that you could have done that could make you deserve to be violated. That isn’t possible. Your abuser was nothing more than an instrument the devil used to try to keep you away from God. The devil is miserable and wants everyone else to be just as miserable as he is, but you don’t have to do that.

Deuteronomy 22:25-26 makes it very clear that rape is wrong. These verses read “But if out in the country a man happens to meet a young woman pledged to be married and rapes her, only the man who has done this shall die. Do nothing to the woman; she has committed no sin deserving death. This case is like that of someone who attacks and murders a neighbor,” which lets you know without a doubt that as long as you weren’t the one who raped someone, you aren’t in the wrong. Your attacker has committed a crime that ranks right up there with murder according to Biblical standards.

Turn Your Attacker Over to God

You don’t have to try to get even with your abuser for what was done to you. Instead, just ask God to take care of it. Romans 12:19 explains it this way, “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord.” This means that your attacker will have to answer for what he or she did to you.

In order to fully turn your attacker over to God, you must pray for him or her. In Matthew 5:44, Jesus gives some very specific instructions about how to handle this situation. He says “But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” When you pray for your attacker, don’t pray for revenge. Instead, pray that God’s will is done. If you honestly mean this in your heart, you can forgive your attacker and move on with your life. God will handle everything else.

Give God Control Over Your Life

If you dwell on the negative feelings that the rape or incest brought into your life, you are letting your abuser control your life instead of controlling it yourself. In order to set your mind on your future as a sober Christian and your journey with God, you have to take control of your feelings. Whether you are feeling angry, hurt, depressed, violated or a combination of these feelings, it is important for you to know that ultimately, God is in control.

Psalm 55:22 says “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” God wants you to give Him control of your life. He wants to take care of all of your problems. The feelings that you are experiencing from the sexual abuse are included in your list of problems. Give God your feelings. Give God your cares. Give God your addiction. He will take them all from you so that you can grow stronger in your faith. As you lean on God, your relationship with Him will improve and you will be able to move past the events that have hurt you.

Let God Use the Situation for Good

Even though your abuser meant to hurt you, God can turn the situation around. Genesis 50:20 says, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.” This doesn’t mean that God wants you to hurt to accomplish His goal. Instead it means that just because the devil stepped in to try to hinder you from doing God’s work that God can help you to move beyond your past. Yes, what happened to you wasn’t good at all, and it never should have happened. But with God’s help, you can use your abuse as part of a testimony to help other people who are in the same situation as you were in draw closer to Him.