Re-Establishing A Relationship With God

As we begin our Christian recovery, we often feel like we’re just going through the motions. People are telling us we have to get sober, and we’re so out of options that we start to believe it too. We’re told we need to admit powerlessness, and if we have really hit bottom, we know it’s true. Our lives are proving it every single day.

Then we are told we need to have a relationship with God. And for those of us who are believers, we aren’t always sure what this means. We thought we did have a relationship with God. Then the addiction took over and we felt that God was distant or that He went silent. At our lowest, most desperate points, it seemed He was not there to help us. We wonder if perhaps our addiction and our sin have put us outside of His favor, His forgiveness and His grace.

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Step Two says we “came to believe a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” And we can believe that God would do this. But holding this belief and having a relationship with God are two different things.

How To Re-Establish A Relationship With God

We know how many mistakes we have made and we feel the guilt. We’re sure that God has had enough of us and we don’t blame Him. Yet we are also told that God is a God of love and grace. We are told that true recovery comes through knowing, loving and relying upon Him. How do we do it?

Begin With The Steps

In many ways, the 12 steps take us through the process of re-establishing our relationship with God. It is to be expected that our addictions have driven us far away from Him. Though we may have prayed, pleaded and shown up at church, it isn’t the same thing as a relationship. If we’re practicing our addiction, we’re putting our faith in an idol, not in God.

Thus the steps help us demolish the idol and redirect our faith toward the God who will save us.

Remember God Is Near

Though many of us have felt that God was distant, we have to remember that this is simply a feeling. The God of the universe is near to His children at all times. He never leaves us or forsakes us. We have to acknowledge that sometimes the distance we feel is one we have created. Working through the steps helps us to get honest with ourselves and with God, and as we do, we begin to feel Him working in our lives. We begin to see evidence of it in His blessings on our road of recovery.

Get Involved

We find God not only in solitude, but in the presence of our Christian brothers and sisters—as Scripture says, where two or more are gathered, He is there. We often think that our relationship with God is one-on-one, but we are the Body of Christ and we meet, know and experience God together. Getting involved with other believers at church, in service or in a Bible study or prayer group can help to build on and deepen the relationship you are re-establishing with God.

Embrace Grace

Even believers and lifelong Christians can have a hard time believing that God really does forgive. We think of our many sins and failings and the ways we have hurt others in our addiction, and we shudder. We can barely forgive ourselves; we can’t imagine that a holy God could welcome us back.

But this is why God has given us the Gospel, and as we move back toward God, it is the most important truth to take in. God loves us with the love He has for His own son. He knows our every shortcoming and yet bursts with love for us. As we begin to have faith in grace, we begin to feel this love. And as we feel so loved, we want to love God back. This is the basis for our relationship with God and it is what keeps us on the road of recovery.

It is a love that heals and saves and it is for everyone who believes.

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