6 Reasons Girls Get Addicted To Porn And What Parents Can Do About It – Part 2

Continued from 6 Reasons Girls Get Addicted to Porn and What Parents Can Do About It – Part 1

Parents don’t want to even imagine their young daughters thinking about porn, let alone struggling with a porn addiction. But today’s trends show that porn viewing among young women (yes, that includes young Christian women) is on the rise. It isn’t enough to be a good, church-going family. And while it is never an easy issue to address, parents can make a difference in their daughters’ lives around the issue of porn use.

Tips For What Parents Can Do To Help Their Daughter When It Comes To Porn

  • What Parents Can Do When Girls Get Addicted To Porn - Christian RehabHave the Conversation – Whether the topic is drugs, sex or alcohol, many parents are reluctant to start the conversation for fear of putting ideas into their kids’ heads. If the kids seem happy and content playing Barbie’s or video games, do I really need to bring up a conversation about Internet porn and the acceptable use of technology? Is this really necessary or helpful? This is an understandable concern, coupled with the fact that the conversation is more than just a little uncomfortable. But in many cases, young women are more familiar with porn and other explicit sexual content than you may think. Having an honest discussion is not going to turn them toward something they weren’t already interested in and can be especially important if they’ve already been engaging in it.
  • Face Reality – The other assumption is that the kids are good kids, so obviously they would never have a problem with this kind of behavior. Your kids might be angels, but they do interact with the rest of the world and can easily encounter porn where you may least expect it, such as on a friend’s cell phone. Rather than pretending the problem could never exist, acknowledge that it is a potential threat and take precautions. This begins with a conversation around house rules and expectations, and may include installing Internet filters on home computers and personal devices. This won’t eliminate the threat, but it will show your kids that you are aware and concerned about their online safety.
  • Be Real, be Honest – Some parents fear discussing sex or porn because of the mistakes they’ve made in their own sexual past. They fear having to answer questions or that their kids will see their actions as license to do the same.
  • Simply be Honest with Your Kids – Your own mistakes don’t need to inform their actions. There’s no need to be excessively graphic, but you can talk about how you might have done things differently or highlight some of the pain that came from the bad decisions you made. This helps lay a foundation of trust and open conversation.
  • Look to God’s Word – Ultimately parents want their kids to understand that we don’t abstain from porn or sex just to be prudes or to take the fun out of life, but because God’s Word calls us to a higher level of purity. This keeps sex sacred and saves us for something much better than online pornography could ever provide. Help your kids understand that sex and sexuality are good gifts that God has given and that they should be preserved and cared for. Remind them that sex is not something to be ashamed of and that it’s OK to have questions and to ask them freely. Talk with your kids about what the Bible says about sex and help them to find the answers they seek.
  • Relax, Empathize – If you waited too long to have the talk and suspect or know that your daughter is already viewing porn, it’s more important than ever to withhold judgment, anger and accusation. Acknowledge the sexual pressure your daughter faces and try not to have a double standard for boys and girls. This can even be an opportunity to talk about how porn, though it imitates sex, is not a representation of sex as God intended it. In reality, it bears little resemblance to a loving, fulfilling sexual relationship and shouldn’t be viewed as a how-to guide or a prep course. Help girls to respect themselves enough to reject pornographic conceptions of women and sex.
  • Pray – Raising a daughter to be a woman who is pure and who respects herself and her sexuality is not an easy job. Pray for your daughter(s). Talk with other parents and pray with them. Continue to seek God’s will for parenting your daughters to be pure women. If a problem is already underway, pray that God would give you guidance and direction in helping your daughter to be free of the bondage. Help her to get the help she needs.

Things To Remember When It Comes To Porn Addiction And Teen Girls

Remember that just like drug use, porn-use can happen to anybody…even your daughter. If the problem has already begun and is causing other risky behaviors, after trying the above tips, don’t be ashamed to seek professional help. You will be glad that you did.